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		<title>Picture of the Week: Light and Shadow</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 20 May 2009 18:25:16 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Kathy</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>Most of the time, when I look at the picture of the week, I see right away the astrological archetype with which the image aligns.</p>
<p>My first instinct with this one was Saturn: the organization, the predictability, the safety of the grid-like pattern. But then I thought: No, Uranus: energy, electricity. Or Mercury: thousands of little connections [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em><img class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-595" style="margin: 5px;" title="lights" src="http://www.depthastrology.net/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/lights-300x199.jpg" alt="lights" width="300" height="199" /></em>Most of the time, when I look at the picture of the week, I see right away the astrological archetype with which the image aligns.</p>
<p>My first instinct with this one was Saturn: the organization, the predictability, the safety of the grid-like pattern. But then I thought: No, Uranus: energy, electricity. Or Mercury: thousands of little connections all bringing energy to an undefined, in-between space.</p>
<p>All of these archetypes are true to the image in their own way but they don&#8217;t really get to the core of it for me. What is most striking about this photo, in my view, is the stark, bright, white light against the utter blackness: the striking oppositeness come together. Secondarily (or perhaps primarily, depending on the viewer), the grid pattern kind of couches or embraces a cross, which in the Christian tradition is the symbol of light penetrating dark.<span id="more-596"></span></p>
<p>But what is <em>light penetrating dark </em>in terms of astrology? I don&#8217;t think I can choose a single planet or sign to reflect that idea, for light and dark are such basic archetypal energies that undergird and run through all of life, through all the energies we carry within us: Venus, Jupiter, Mercury, Sagittarius, Cancer &#8212; each of these and every other astrological energy carries its own brand of light and dark into embodiment, into the life of the person who carries that energy.</p>
<p>For instance, Venus is the goddess of love and beauty and, as such, represents merging relationship, sensuality, art and luscious enjoyment of life. But she can also be desperate and demanding, vain and superficial. These are two sides of the same coin, the light and the shadow of a single archetypal energy that lives in all of us.</p>
<p>There are others: Mercury&#8217;s quick wit, light laughter and adaptability is shadowed by detachment, fickleness and nit-picky-ness; Jupiter&#8217;s wisdom, perspective and generosity may be darkened by arrogance, excess and sloth.</p>
<p>When we accept, embody or live out only one side of an archetype, denying the other side&#8217;s potential within us, we run into trouble. This is the condition first identified by Sigmund Freud as <em>projection</em> and cast into mythic terms by Carl Jung as <em>shadow. </em></p>
<p><em></em>Western astrologers have long identified shadow with the seventh house (the house of relationship), suggesting that we draw people to us who have the qualities we are not yet ready to accept in ourselves and integrate into our consciousness.</p>
<p>But we can experience shadow in any house of the horoscope, for example if we have a strong seventh house and little in its opposite house, the first, we may identify more completely with others than with ourselves, making the self into shadow material: fear of being alone, denial of one&#8217;s own worth, self-effacement or self-abnegation or self-mutilation, to go to the extreme. If our ninth house is dominant over the third, we may find ourselves in an ivory tower, alienated from community, and thus critical of people who have strong local connections and networks. And so forth.</p>
<p>This is all shadow material. Light penetrates shadow through the channel of consciousness, of becoming aware of where your shadows lie, where they&#8217;re sourced, how they&#8217;re triggered, how they grow.</p>
<p>Consciousness, in turn, is cultivated by self-reflection, self-honesty and ventures into the darkness, to discover and retrieve and reclaim what is there. It can be done, to some extent, on one&#8217;s own, but is more often effective with a faithful guide, a Virgil to one&#8217;s Dante or a Gandalf to one&#8217;s Frodo. Such guides can bring the wisdom, insight, faith, humbleness and even humor we need to believe in our own survival through the dark shadows of our own psyche. They can help us find our own light.</p>
<p><em>Image: <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/drakeguan/3548550595/" target="_blank">Drake Guan</a></em></p>
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		<title>Jung&#8217;s Shadow in the Horoscope Chart</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 18 Feb 2009 19:11:17 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Kathy</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>Carl Jung used the term &#8220;shadow&#8221; to describe the repressed contents of the personal unconscious &#8212; those parts of each of us that we&#8217;d rather not admit to harboring. The problem with shadow material is that it comes out when we&#8217;re not looking &#8212; or, more precisely, it comes out because we&#8217;re not looking.</p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-348" style="margin: 5px;" title="shadow" src="http://www.depthastrology.net/wp-content/uploads/2009/02/shadow-300x225.jpg" alt="shadow" width="300" height="225" />Carl Jung used the term &#8220;shadow&#8221; to describe the repressed contents of the personal unconscious &#8212; those parts of each of us that we&#8217;d rather not admit to harboring. The problem with shadow material is that it comes out when we&#8217;re not looking &#8212; or, more precisely, it comes out <em>because </em>we&#8217;re not looking.</p>
<p>Jung said our shadow elements could not be directly accessed but could, instead, be understood through dreams, complexes, projections and similarly sideways media. So a dream that you&#8217;re being chased by a lion might suggest that you haven&#8217;t integrated your personal power very well. The perception that someone else is a ruthless gossip might suggest that you look at your own gossiping habits. And so forth.</p>
<p><span id="more-347"></span>I believe the shadow can be seen most clearly in the horoscope chart, since the chart provides a graphic map of the individual psyche. Here are several ways we can detect the contents of the shadow in the horoscope:</p>
<ul>
<li><strong>Knowing the dark and light of each archetype. </strong>Planets, signs, aspects and even houses carry energy that can manifest in positive, negative or neutral ways. Talking through situations, events, feelings and behaviors can begin to reveal how each archetype is being expressed on a daily basis.</li>
<li><strong>Attending to polarities. </strong>In Jungian terms, an astrological polarity would be called the &#8220;tension of opposites,&#8221; wherein two competing energies vie for dominance in the personality. We can see polarities in the horoscope in the form of oppositions (when two planets are 180 degrees apart) as well as imbalances &#8212; for example, many planets in the fifth house and none in the 11th.</li>
<li><strong>Noticing sign-house conflicts. </strong>These occur when an external force (house) demands that the person acts against the innate (sign) energy. For example, a Pisces Moon in the 10th house may suppress its natural softness to satisfy people who demand its leadership. (Of course, it may instead use its softness to be a &#8220;servant leader&#8221;-type; we won&#8217;t know without talking to the person.)</li>
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<p>But perhaps the most powerful way of perceiving the whole of one&#8217;s shadow is by<strong> reading the nodal chart. </strong></p>
<p>Developed by <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bruno_Huber" target="_blank">Bruno and Louise Huber</a>, the nodal chart is the nerve center of astrological shadow material. In essence, it turns the natal chart inside-out, displaying, in full view, the suppressed contents of the personality &#8212; those traits that need to be accepted and integrated in order to move closer to the wholeness of the true self. In short, the nodal chart is a profound and transformative tool that can quickly shine a light on problems that have confounded you for years.</p>
<p>Want to know what your nodal chart says? <a href="http://www.depthastrology.net/readings/" target="_self">Schedule a reading today.</a></p>
<p><em>Next up: Carl Jung&#8217;s nodal chart</em></p>
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		<title>Huber Nodal Chart: The Junk Drawer of the Psyche</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 15 Dec 2008 19:52:25 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Kathy</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>You know that drawer, or closet, or back room where you throw all the crap you don’t want to throw away, but don’t want in your regular living space, but don’t really have another place for? When I was growing up, it was the junk drawer. In my grown-up house, it’s mysteriously called the studio.</p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>You know that drawer, or closet, or back room where you throw all the crap you don’t want to throw away, but don’t want in your regular living space, but don’t really have another place for? When I was growing up, it was the junk drawer. In my grown-up house, it’s mysteriously called the studio.</p>
<p>You know what I’m talking about. You avoid that space at all costs, and when you find you need something from there, you throw up a lot of resistance before going in.</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.depthastrology.net/wp-content/uploads/2008/12/junk-drawer.jpg"><img class="aligncenter size-medium wp-image-281" title="junk-drawer" src="http://www.depthastrology.net/wp-content/uploads/2008/12/junk-drawer-300x225.jpg" alt="" width="300" height="225" /></a></p>
<p>Maybe you try to find a substitute for the serving dish that’s in there that you’d like to use for the party tonight. Or maybe you hope against hope that you haven’t really put it in there after all – maybe it’s just wedged behind a tray in the much-cleaner kitchen cupboard. But it’s not, and you know it, and finally you just hold your nose and open the door to the mess.<span id="more-280"></span></p>
<p>In Jungian psychology, that room might be called the “shadow.” It’s the part of you that has all the stuff you really don’t want to acknowledge, much less look at, deal with, dust off or throw out once and for all. You walk around life all day long as if your thoughts and words and consciously-chosen actions are all that exist of your psyche.</p>
<p>But then every once in a while you burst out in anger, much to everyone’s surprise. Or you hole up, encased in depression, not really sure why. Or you manage only a shallow little chuckle when you’d really like to bellow out with a belly laugh with the rest of the crowd. Or you’re tongue-tied when someone asks about your mother.</p>
<p>These unintended, often under-the-radar reactions belie a deeper part of the psyche that’s hinted at in a traditional astrology reading – but revealed much more fully in the Huber nodal chart.</p>
<p>If you’ve had only your natal chart read,  you’re in for a surprise with a nodal chart reading. Though the shadow reveals itself through other means, such as dreams, complexes, addictions and obsessions, I don’t know of another way to look at the full shadow head-on, to get a sense of its shape and purpose, to understand how its structure fits into the structure of your psyche. Where your conscious mind balks, the shadow may go ahead full-boar. Where you think your choosing west, your shadow may choose east. It can really screw you up if you’re not aware of it. Seeing it laid out graphically can help you bring it to consciousness, manage it better and be more in control of the choices you make.</p>
<p>The natal chart and the nodal chart intersect at two critical times in each person’s life: once in the first 36 years of life, then again in the next 36 years. The Hubers liken these times to “going through the eye of the needle,” times of transformation that may be exceedingly difficult but – if survived – can lead to a more conscious, grounded and successful way of life. Knowing when those times are coming can help us build an ark so we can survive it. Knowing when they’ve occurred in the past can give us new perspective on what might have seemed a random string of bad luck, or incompetence, or frustration.</p>
<p>Instead of allowing the shadow to overcome us, we can look at difficult, frustrating and frightening times of life as times when the junk drawer really needs a good, careful cleaning. A nodal chart reading can help you know where, and how, to begin.</p>
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		<title>Three in the Bed: Venus, Mars and&#8230;</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 17 Sep 2008 23:47:36 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Kathy</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[In psychology and astrology, we like to say, "You marry your shadow." But Venus wasn't married to Mars in ancient myth. She was married to Vulcan. And he's been in the bed ever since. [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview ('/outbound/bp0.blogger.com');" href="http://bp0.blogger.com/_pOynk-jM2Ro/Ru7QA-Sx_-I/AAAAAAAAAJA/BcYyo0Zvo00/s1600-h/vulcan.jpg" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5111251342252441570" style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 280px; height: 319px;" src="http://bp0.blogger.com/_pOynk-jM2Ro/Ru7QA-Sx_-I/AAAAAAAAAJA/BcYyo0Zvo00/s320/vulcan.jpg" border="0" alt="" /></a>On Monday, the Sun enters Libra, whose ruling planet, Venus, was brought to wide public awareness as a psychological principle in 1993 by John Gray&#8217;s book <em>Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus</em>. Like Gray, astrology often pairs Venus with Mars &#8212; ruler of Libra&#8217;s opposite sign, Aries. Both symbolize the instinctive ways we seduce, pair up with, oppose and work productively with other people. But they do it in completely different ways.</p>
<p>Venus tends to draw the other in with magnetism and charm, creating an atmosphere that will naturally unfold in the desired way. Opposition is met with negotiation and compromise.</p>
<p>Mars, on the other hand, is more direct. It identifies the goal and sets about achieving it. Obstacles get removed, not negotiated.</p>
<p>I hope you noticed that I didn&#8217;t use gender pronouns in the preceding two paragraphs. Yes, women and men have been socialized in the obvious directions, but I think it&#8217;s unfortunate that Gray chose to pigeonhole each gender into one archetype alone. The truth is, we<em> all </em>have <em>both </em>types of energy at our disposal (never mind the fact that not every relationship is made up of one man and one woman). Understanding and owning both energies, and being able to choose which to employ from moment to moment, would be enormously helpful, and even empowering, no matter who you&#8217;re in bed with.</p>
<p>Okay. I know this post seems about 15 years too late, but I wasn&#8217;t yet blogging in 1993, and besides, I want to talk about the third one in the bed. Because when Venus and Mars get jealous, defensive and angry &#8212; as they&#8217;re likely to in the coming weeks, being in each other&#8217;s signs and all &#8211;that&#8217;s when shadow material comes out in unconscious and destructive ways. If these planets are hitting any sensitive points in your own chart, you could be in for some <span style="text-decoration: line-through;">serious conflict</span> learning moments.</p>
<p>In psychology and astrology, we like to say, &#8220;You marry your shadow.&#8221; But Venus wasn&#8217;t married to Mars in ancient myth. She was married to Vulcan. And he&#8217;s been in the bed ever since.</p>
<p>Venus was born of the churning sea foam but chose to be a goddess of the sky instead of the water &#8212; a horizontal energy reflected in her rulership of Libra and the 7th house. Vulcan, on the other hand, was born on Mount Olympus to Juno, who found him so ugly and deformed that she threw him off a cliff into the sea: a deep and vertical energy if there ever was one. One came out of the sea at birth; the other went in.</p>
<p>So already, the couple’s birth stories have them going in different directions: Opposites attracting, or at least being compelled into couplehood. Venus went on to play out much of her divine drama with earthly humans &#8212; a beautiful, social, sought-after goddess &#8212; whereas Vulcan made his life solitary and underground, shunning the other gods, harboring anger about being rejected.</p>
<p>But, because they were human(ish), both of them longed for love.</p>
<p>Venus was empowered from the start: Did she want water or sky? Feeling worthy of respect and deserving of choice, she found that love came easily. Men and gods flocked to her feet. But when they didn&#8217;t, her jealousy arose quickly: Perhaps she relied too much on beauty and charm. Perhaps there was a bit of uncertainty below the surface. Did she <em>really </em>deserve love? Or was it just her beauty they were after?</p>
<p>For Vulcan, there was no such uncertainty. He <em>knew </em>he was unworthy, and grew resentful and angry toward everyone as a result (with a special hatred for the goddess who had birthed him, then rejected him). Vulcan holed up in a cave, silent and removed, working his forge but having little contact with gods or humans. Even his marriage to the goddess of love and beauty, Venus herself, was not enough to convince him: It was arranged by Jupiter, after all, and his new wife continued unabated her habit of coupling with a wide variety of men and gods. One of those gods was Mars.</p>
<p>Strong, athletic, handsome and confident, Mars was everything Vulcan was not. Once, fed up with the affair, Vulcan caught Venus and Mars in bed together and trapped them with a golden net he had made in his forge. He called the other gods to come and laugh at them:</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;Father Jove,&#8221; he cried, &#8220;and all you other blessed gods &#8230; come here and see the ridiculous and disgraceful sight that I will show you. Jove&#8217;s daughter Venus is always dishonouring me because I am lame. She is in love with Mars, who is handsome and clean built, whereas I am a cripple &#8230; Come and see the pair together asleep on my bed. It makes me furious to look at them. They are very fond of one another, but I do not think they will lie there longer than they can help, nor do I think that they will sleep much; there, however, they shall stay till her father has repaid me the sum I gave him for his baggage of a daughter, who is fair but not honest.&#8221; <a href="http://ancienthistory.about.com/library/bl/bl_mars_venus.htm" target="_blank"><em>(Source)</em></a></p></blockquote>
<p>The gods did come and laugh, and Mars eventually compensated Vulcan for the transgression  (please, don&#8217;t get me started on that).</p>
<p>Though Mars is often cast as Venus&#8217;s opposite, in a way they were very alike in their self-possession, sensuality and extraversion. And though I believe that Venus and Vulcan are quite opposite in some respects, both seem to draw their sense of self-worth from their association with beauty. Venus is lucky in this regard while Vulcan is not.</p>
<p>In a way, Venus and Vulcan are the original Beauty<a onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview ('/outbound/bp3.blogger.com');" href="http://bp3.blogger.com/_pOynk-jM2Ro/Ru78feSyADI/AAAAAAAAAJo/vkrrx4iVP38/s1600-h/b%26b.jpg" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5111300244750073906" style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 306px; height: 253px;" src="http://bp3.blogger.com/_pOynk-jM2Ro/Ru78feSyADI/AAAAAAAAAJo/vkrrx4iVP38/s320/b%26b.jpg" border="0" alt="" /></a> and the Beast, the archetype of projection itself. Venus can’t own or abide ugliness in herself or the world, yet she is compelled to marry it. She <em>has </em>to contend with its existence in the world. Even the goddess of beauty cannot live on beauty alone.</p>
<p>For his part, Vulcan can’t stand the beautiful, because he doesn&#8217;t see it reflected in the mirror, but he persists in making it, capturing it and controlling it. If he cannot <em>be</em> it, he will <em>have </em>it. But because he cannot own his own beauty, his encounter with it in the world only deepens his self-hatred.</p>
<p>Each one resents and despises the other for the things they cannot own in themselves.</p>
<p>Owning your own beauty <span style="font-style: italic;">and </span>your own ugliness is essential to the balance for which Libra is renowned. Reclaiming your projections &#8212; your sense that beauty is <em>out there</em>, not within &#8212; from beauty magazines, from people you envy, from your own sense of inadequacy &#8212; is the hard work of Libra.</p>
<p>Owning your own ugliness is no small feat, either. When relationship conflicts occur, we tend to claim beauty for ourselves and shove <em>ugly </em>off onto the other. Our defensiveness or resistance to compromise won&#8217;t allow us to admit our wrongdoing. We stay trapped in Vulcan&#8217;s net until some debt is paid off.</p>
<p>What&#8217;s the debt? Admitting you were wrong sometimes. Acknowledging your jealousy, or your impatience, or that you really hate being reminded to fold the laundry when you were planning on doing it anyway. Honesty: Yes, sometimes honesty in the manner of Mars can be ugly. But it tends to feel a lot better than the brewing resentment of Vulcan.</p>
<p>If we can stand in our own ugliness <em>and </em>our own beauty, if we can acknowledge that we all carry both beauty <em>and </em>beast within ourselves, then maybe we can forge a new way of relating. We can admit to being dismayed not only with the other but with ourselves as well. And when it&#8217;s time to make up, we can let go of guilt and take enormous pleasure in the beauty of both the other and the self.</p>
<p>And that’s what ultimately disarms the most genuine of suitors.</p>
<p><em>Thanks to my 2007 self, who originally explored these themes <a href="http://www.depthastrology.net/2007/09/17/venus-vulcan-and-the-art-of-libra/" target="_self">here</a>, and to Kathleen Burt for her exploration of Vulcan in her book </em><a href="http://astore.amazon.com/depthastro-20/detail/0875420885/102-0356440-2296170" target="_blank">Archetypes of the Zodiac</a><em>.</em></p>
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